Self-Care and Discipline


It’s 2018, I hope we all know that self-care is essential, not a luxury”

I’m going to come out and claim it: I went “shopping” two times this week with the intentions of not purchasing anything. It was window shopping to another level because I actually tried on several pieces of clothes in several stores knowing I wasn’t buying anything. And guess what, I had a blast!

I went to The Grove to have a self-care day because I was feeling down and needed to get out of that mood. My plans were to go to Barnes & Noble’s to work in the cafe but that didn’t go well. It was extremely loud, and my laptop wouldn’t connect to the Wifi, this didn’t help my mood. I walked around, not trusting myself to go to any stores but then I said you know what, it wouldn’t hurt. I went to Topshop and picked up everything that I liked, not paying attention to any price tags. I headed to the fitting room and tried on everything, and that’s when the fun began.

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After going into a couple of more stores and fitting rooms, I took my talents to Sephora for some free samples. Fun fact: You can walk out of Sephora with a bag full of free samples with no purchase. That’s exactly what I did, I got samples of Marc Jacobs Shameless Youthful Look 24 Hour Foundation ($46), NARS Natural Radiant Longwear Foundation ($49), and Tatcha Luminous Dewy Skin Mist ($48), expensive right? I am running low on my Fenty foundation, so I picked up a sample of that too. I’m actually really excited to try out these foundations and I love that Sephora does this. Who wants to buy an expensive product without getting to experience it first?

After this, I got dinner and sat to reflect by The Fountain Bar. Sometimes life is a lot, and you have to make sure you are truly taking care of yourself. I am under a lot of stress with searching for a job, an apartment and adjusting to a new city, so it has been essential for me to make sure I am practicing self-care on the regular. This day was a different type of self-care that I really enjoyed, it allowed me to just be free and escape from my to-do-list. I was also really proud of myself for only spending $8 that entire day.

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I’m going to be honest. I stood in line for those jeans but decided to put them back because I really shouldn’t be spending money on clothes right now. Although treating yourself is a part of self-care, learning to discipline yourself is a huge part of it too. Buying those jeans would have felt good, but it felt good to walk out of that store empty-handed with my savings goal in mind.

To conclude, I had a wonderful day. I smiled all the way home listening to Frank Ocean, grateful that I had the power to turn my mood around.

Are you truly taking care of yourself?

I hope I inspired you to have a self-care day, if trying on clothes with no intentions of buying is weird for you, just think about how you window shop online by racking your cart up to thousands of dollars with no intentions of purchasing. It’s kinda like the same thing. Self-care isn’t a luxury, I read that it’s really about having healthy rituals that help keep your body and mind energized. Some of my other favorite self-care activities are going to an art museum alone, trying a new workout class or just binge-watching a show. Don’t feel guilty about doing this. You deserve it!

In this post I discussed recreational self-care, stay tuned for a post on transformative self-care.

What are some of your favorite self-care mantras? Comment below or tweet me @1ShyannS